World Leading Life Coach: 3 Steps To Figuring Out ANYTHING You Want: Marie Forleo | E184

Marie Forleo joins Stephen Bartlett to trace how a childhood moment watching her divorced mother despair over money shaped a lifelong, fear-driven pursuit of success. She explains how she learned to distinguish intuition (a bodily 'expansive vs contracted' sensation) from fear, and shares the three rules behind her 'figureoutable' mindset. Much of the conversation centers on her near-loss of her 20-year relationship with partner Josh to her workaholism, and the Imago therapy work that healed it. She also unpacks being multi-passionate, the difference between 'can't' and 'won't', intentional use of social media, and her newer Time Genius program for escaping time stress.

• A childhood memory of her crying mother saying 'I have nothing' and warning her never to depend on a man for money shaped Marie's entire money-driven career.
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• Marie's intuition test: ask whether saying yes makes your body feel 'expansive or contracted' to tell intuition from fear.
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• The three figureoutable rules: all problems/dreams are figureoutable; if not it's a law of nature; or you may simply not care enough to solve it.
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• The 'can't vs won't' distinction: 99% of the time 'I can't' is really 'I won't' because it isn't a true priority.
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• Imago therapy taught Marie she and Josh chose each other to heal opposite childhood wounds (her need for freedom, his fear of abandonment).
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• Marie's workaholism nearly destroyed her relationship; she and Josh went years without a proper vacation.
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• Marie has known since childhood she never wanted marriage or children, calling it her unwavering truth.
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• Her lowest point: Josh telling her on the couch 'I don't think I love you anymore,' and her inner voice telling her to fight for the relationship.
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• Over 100 million people have interacted with Marie's videos and advice.
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• Marie discovered the profession of 'coaching' from an online article while working at Gourmet magazine.
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• A US study tracking ~14,000 entrepreneurs found those who kept their day job were 33% less likely to fail.
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• Marie's first workshop had five attendees (her parents, her yoga instructor, and two neighbors pulled off the street) in a New Jersey basement.
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• Marie became more successful and a better partner after stopping letting fear of losing success drive her.
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• Marie's '10-year test' led her to pursue dance, eventually becoming a Nike dance athlete despite no formal training.
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• A study showed children who saw an advert for a toy chose to play with a 'mean' kid holding the toy over a kind kid without it, revealing how media shifts values.
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• Marie's mantra 'create before you consume' counters the ~85% of phone owners who consume media first thing in the morning.
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